If you think about the idea of pregnancy and childbirth, I think it’s pretty accurate to say that just evaluating it in words and numbers would not be the ideal explanation because of the emotions and pain that drains a mother while going through motherhood. And when a woman experiences a miscarriage or any kind of abnormality during this delicate stage, the amount of trauma and detachment they feel is very excruciating and incomparable.
When a mother loses her child, you know how dark that would be like, but I’d say hats off to this particular woman who had the courage to filmed the whole journey in photographs as a way of saying goodbye to her stillborn baby.
33-year-old Sarah Jade shares her heartbreaking story with the world.
Sarah Jade, her husband Tim and their kid Arthur lives in Melbourne, Australia. The couple wanted to have another kid and everything was going fine. Sarah got pregnant as planned. But 22 weeks into the pregnancy, what they didn’t expect was about to happen.
When the test reports for the MRI scan came in, the bad news was hard to swallow down for the couple.
The unborn baby was diagnosed with a severe brain condition called Polymicrogyria. The case develops an abnormal size of folds inside the brain which are quite small that the baby won’t be able to survive once it’s out of the womb.
Even though Sarah and Tim knew about the harsh truth, they found out the gender of the baby and named him Aksel.
At week 33, the inevitable time arrived, baby Askel’s heart stopped beating inside the mother’s womb and that’s when reality hit them hard. Sarah went into labor and gave birth to stillborn Askel on the morning of 10th February.
Sarah says, “It was traumatic. The worst part was that I was pushing so hard, and Aksel was halfway out but then went back in, and I had to push all over again. I just burst out in tears at that moment. It was like my body wanted to push but my heart wanted to keep him inside of me.”
When the coupled hired Lacey, the photographer to take pictures for them, it was all for an emotional reason.
Sarah shared, “I’ll never regret having those photographs taken. It is something for us to hold onto forever. Our whole family saw Aksel and said goodbye. Letting go was the hardest thing we’ve ever had to go through.”
For her and Tim, capturing those moments was a way of bidding their goodbyes to their baby. They wanted to keep him in their memories forever. And the photographs were also helping the couple in healing from their hardest moment in life.
Lacey explains how the photography helps to heal a broken mind and heart.
“I think back to all the friends and family that I’ve lost over the course of my life, and while you know what they look like, you don’t have a very vivid picture in your mind but a faint recollection of what that person was like. But to have a photograph of them you’re getting a hard copy replica of what they looked like. So by sharing stories and photographs like this, we’re uniting everyone in that validation.”
”I was holding you. You were real.” – Sarah Jade.
It’s easy to read a story like this and share their remorse but what Sarah and Tim went through and came out with is something worth a million as it brings out the sore sight that people normally hide away due to emotional reasons. We are so proud of both of them for sharing their pictures and moments to the world.