Every relationship has ups and downs. The trick is to keep moving forward. Conflicts only make these bonds stronger if you are willing to forgive and grow from the experiences. Consequently, with all the compromises, fun and cuddles, relationships grow you as a person and as a loving partner. Below are few habits that people in a healthy relationship would commonly follow, as explained by the experts.
1. They appreciate their partner in front of their friends:
“Couples in healthy relationships talk positively about one another to friends, kids, relatives, even coworkers. This is the opposite of undermining behaviors that characterize less functional relationships. Just saying, ‘My husband is handy,’ or ‘Mommy always makes the best dinners’ can be automatic and is a great way to maintain connection and closeness.” — Dr. Samantha Rodman, psychologist and dating coach.
2. They take out time for each other, no matter how busy their lives get:
“People in healthy relationships have regular times in their day-to-day routine to connect with each other. I’ve seen couples do this by walking the dog together, talking after the kids go down, watching their favorite shows or praying together.” — Dr. Kurt Smith, therapist who specializes in counseling for men.
3. They laugh together freely and wholeheartedly:
“My husband and I laugh a lot. To the point where it’s difficult to be too upset for very long because one of us will usually do something to lighten things up. Topics can and should be serious when needed but having a sense of humor is a tremendous asset if you want to be in a healthy relationship. People that laugh a lot and generally just don’t take things too seriously can more easily enjoy a healthy relationship.” — Dr. Marie Land, psychologist.
4: They appreciate their partner’s positive qualities:
“As a marriage counselor, I see couples on my couch who have a lot to complain about when it comes to their marriage. But for the most part, they have the same problems as just about every other couple. The healthiest couples don’t focus on complaints. Instead, they look at the good things their spouse does and they make it a point to not hold back in their expressions of gratitude for each other.” — Aaron Anderson, marriage and family therapist.
5: They try to share their problems and practice empathy:
“By doing this, couples are often able to overcome the misunderstandings that commonly occur in all relationships. This conflict management skill helps people in my office feel heard, understood and valued when their partner can genuinely say, ‘I may not agree with you but I understand you and can see how it felt that way.’” — Kari Carroll, couples therapist.
6. They communicate well with each other:
“A frequent bone of contention in conflicted relationships is when one partner feels out of the loop or unprioritized. A simple call or text to say when you’ll be home from work or from a girls night out helps your relationship thrive and makes your partner feel secure.” — Dr. Samantha Rodman
7. Flirting never gets old:
“Flirting is a unique way for a couple to show love and excitement for each other and have fun doing it. When couples stop flirting, the relationship gets bland and boring. The healthiest couples still flirt with each other ? and they do it a lot.” — Aaron Anderson
8. They try to keep their fights clean:
“This means no name-calling, labeling or disparaging remarks about your partner whether you’re together or not. I often hear partners use sarcasm, biting comments or little put-downs with each other and then brush them off with a justification like, ‘I was just joking.’ Partners in healthy relationships practice being loving and respectful with each other always.” — Dr. Kurt Smith
9. They are willing to forgive and do not hold any grudges:
10: They are understanding and compromising:
“You must give in order to receive,” says psychologist Dr. Susan Bartell .”Try to understand what your partner needs and wants before immediately shutting down a request. Work together to find a shared resolution.” “People in healthy relationships make a point of listening to their partners and friends, asking questions, and making sure they actually have understood what the other person meant, not just what they heard,” says Bradshaw.
11. They practice self-worth:
“People in healthy relationships are clear and confident in how they should be treated and how they want to treat others — with intentional respect, joy, gratitude, and love.They do the best they each can even if they aren’t perfect, and they forgive each other for each other’s imperfections.” — Bradshaw.
12: They don’t try to change their partners:
“Accept others without trying to change them” says Bartell”…Everyone comes with baggage.”Remember that you fell in love with a person because of how he/she is and if you try to change them, it will not only hurt them but you too.