What is true love? In recent years, we have been led to believe that true love is an elaborate promposal. A gigantic gesture that is supposed to woo us and sweep us off our feet. Some believe that true love is what is described in a Nicholas Sparks book or in a Disney movie. This has led many to believe that their significant other doesn’t love them, just because they haven’t made a romantic gesture that can be seen from space.
But is that really what true love is all about? A gesture for everyone to see? An Instagram post to make all your friends jealous?
This wife disagrees. Amy Betters-Midtvedt, a wife of 25-years does not believe that love is made from huge gestures.
She recently posted an example of real love. She had gone grocery shopping and had forgotten her wallet at home. We can all relate to a moment like that, can’t we?
So, she called her husband, and he left work to come and rescue her. Did he overreact and shout at her? No, he did it with a smile on his face.
Now, that’s true love.
Listen up young ones.This is what your knight in shining armor looks like when you are in your 40's.Yes, that's my…
Here’s what she wrote:
“Listen up young ones.
This is what your knight in shining armor looks like when you are in your 40’s.
Yes, that’s my amazing husband who is arriving on the scene with his credit card because what you can’t see is me, standing next to a cart super full of groceries that I couldn’t pay for because I couldn’t find my wallet.
Not sure you can tell, but he’s smiling at me. Yup…he had to leave work and he is smiling. His only words of admonishment were, “You’re not supposed to be grocery shopping I said I’d go this week.”
Young people, this is what love looks like when you’re old and it’s ridiculous how awesome it is.
Love also looks like me coming downstairs to a full pot of coffee every morning because coffee is love.
Love looks like all the lunches being made already so I can enjoy that aforementioned cup of coffee.
Love looks like someone washing the dishes while his wife catches up on This is Us while plopped on the couch not helping at all.
Love looks like a super patient dad doing the 5 year old’s homework with him every morning so I can get to work on time.
Love looks like running to the store before bed after your wife has forgotten to buy milk because you know the morning will be easier if we can serve up some cereal.
And you guys there were signs it would be this way so I have tips for you.
In college this love looked like boyfriend Todd running to the store for a danish I was craving or watching me and my friends on the dance floor long after he wanted to leave the bar or him being known across campus by the flower backpack he was carrying which of course was mine.
Young people, listen.
Do not be fooled by big, showy promposals and giant cards with candy bars glued to them with some cute saying or by your name spelled in pepperoni by a boy who’s asking you to homecoming.
That isn’t the stuff that lasts and let’s be honest…moms are totally helping them with those things.
Watch how he treats you when Instagram isn’t looking.
That is where the signs are.
Choose the man who will carry your too heavy flowered backpack in public because he will also be the man who bails you out at ALDI‘s when your 40-? with a smile and a hug.
And that my friends is true love.
Love is made out of a million little things, not one romantic moment. A relationship is built on all those small annoyances that they put up with because they honestly cannot imagine life without you. Love is not about romantic gestures, it is about the little things.
So, when dreaming about your perfect relationship, think about Ellie and Carl from “Up”.
Not Romeo and Juliet.
Love happens when Instagram isn’t watching. Thank you for proving that to the internet, Mr. and Mrs. Betters-Midtvedt. Look for someone who will love even though you’re flawed, beyond that picture-perfect promposal. Look for someone who will love you forever.